-- A philosophy of quiet respect for people
This world is full of “good intentions.”
We want to correct others. We want to guide others. We want to make them aware of their mistakes.
These all seem like truly humane and sincere acts.
But we need to ask again.
Does that goodwill truly protect the dignity of the other person?
People don't change through "understanding"
Much thought and education is based on the premise that people will change if they understand.
But the reality is different.
No matter how accurate the explanation,
people won’t take a single step if they don’t feel safe.
It’s not ignorance that is preventing change.
I’m worried.
Structural violence created by the position of "healing"
When trying to heal someone,
there will always be a “healer” and a “healed.”
This asymmetry,
no matter how gently it is disguised in words,
contains a silent relationship of domination.
As long as there is a healer,
the one being healed will remain fixed as an “incomplete being.”
It’s not recovery.
It is the reproduction of roles.
Non-intervention is not abandonment
When people hear “not intervening,”
many imagine coldness and irresponsibility.
However, non-intervention here does not mean indifference.
In fact, the opposite is true.
The decision to believe in the other person’s inner strength to the end
Do not give advice.
Don’t give a conclusion.
Don’t control the rate of change.
It’s not “doing nothing,” but rather the most difficult engagement, respecting the other person’s time.
The body doesn't lie
Words easily convey ideas.
But the body only expresses the truth of the present moment.
Are you nervous?
Is your breathing deep?
Is there safety there?
Before thinking or finding the right answer,
it’s important to make sure your body is calm.
This philosophy that gets the order wrong will inevitably leave people exhausted.
An attitude of not being afraid of blank spaces
silence.
interval
A time when words don’t come out.
Many people would see this as a failure.
I have to say something.
You have to give it meaning.
But a void is a time when something is integrated inside.
Don’t take it away.
Don’t take it away.
Don’t bury it.
Believing in emptiness is synonymous with believing in one’s inner maturity.
The silence of someone who has stepped down from their role
Someone who teaches.
The one who leads.
A healer.
An awakened person.
These roles give you temporary power.
But what remains in the end is the serenity that only those who have stepped down from their roles can have.
Without becoming anything,
without standing above anyone,
just existing as a single human being.
This attitude
impacts those around you more deeply than words.
Instead of a conclusion
Respecting people doesn’t mean giving them something.
It’s not an explanation, a correct answer, or good intentions.
Don’t get in the way of that person standing up on their own.
That is the highest and most tranquil ethics.